Why do people think it is ok to manipulate people? I will never understand it. And unfortunately, I am a person who gives in to manipulation too often. It breaks me down, makes me feel like crap, and I just give in. I have been trying to work on getting better at it, but this is one of my hardest struggles.

For example, yesterday I was asked to do some photos for a friend. It was last minute, but I love taking photos so I didn’t mind. My partner was out of town all weekend and got home yesterday late afternoon. When I told her I was going to be doing the photos that evening she seemed a bit upset by it even though that wasn’t the first time I told her about it. Then she started questioning me more and more about it. When I asked if she wanted to come with me she said, “not really, I’ve been gone all weekend I thought today we were just going to chill with each other, but whatever I guess.” Then she had to run to her parents house real quick, she gave me a quick love you I guess I’ll see you later and took off. So of course I’m mad and whatever about it, and then the longer I sit there the more I start to feel like crap about it. Then I ended up cancelling on my friend and just stayed home. Then she gets home and asks why I didn’t go. I say just because and leave it at that and then her mood the rest of the night was perfectly content like nothing happened.

If anyone has any tips to avoid giving in so much to manipulation I will happily accept it. I hate confrontation, unless it involves people I love, kids, or animals. I just need to try and start realizing me doing things that I love shouldn’t make me feel bad just because it’s inconvenient timing.